I knoe for a fact that my tob is out the door, but can a bad tob be the cause of having a really hard time getting into gear? To the point where i feel i will break the shift lever if i try harder?
I checked clutch fluid and slave and they both checked out fine.

Yeah it will cause its not letting the clutch disengage properly. I remember I had this happened to me right before my pressure plate blew up. After I pulled the tranny my tob was in two pieces.

How hard is to replace?

hahaha, i guess its dead now
i didnt want to do it now since ill probably be rebuilding it soon
will i have to replace it then as well?

Damn eric this is not your week..
same shit happened to my srt4 last week..

If you replace it now u could keep it when u rebuild it unless u got another car till u get the engine rebuilt.

So today i tried getting into gears while the car was off and they go in like butter but when i turn on the car i cant get it in gear for shit.

Pull the tranny already.

Ordered the clutch yesterday, so im just waiting for it to arrive and finally get it fixed.
Its come to the point where i cant even drive it anymore

I wouldn't drive it that way unless you don't care about having working syncros. Wait till the parts arrive and pull the trans, its actually pretty simple. I've pulled my trans in as little as an hour and half in the past.

Nice having lifts.

Its not hard, it just sucks reaching the rear motor mount and being under the car. I'd do it every weekend if I could do everything from the top. I also clean everything I touch so it takes a whole weekend and 3 tooth brushes.

Ive only done it on a lift once, i use to do it in my driveway with a jack and jackstands all the time. The hardest part IMO is getting the tranny back in once it's out. Other than that its not too bad if your somewhat mechanically inclined.